6 Tips for Creating a Life you Love
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Before I get stuck into this blog post I want to add a disclaimer that I feel there are many ways and tips for creating a life you love and this is going to cover just a few of those.
This post is adapted from an Instagram post I shared and focuses on 6 tips that you can use to create a life you love.
You were not put on this plane to be unhappy and hate your life, I truly believe you were put on this planet to live out your days happy and living a life that lights you up.
You may be thinking - but that’s not reality Carly, life is hard, life is complicated and not everyone can be off galavanting creating the life of their dreams.
But I want to challenge you on that.
I want you to realise that yes - the dream lives that we see people living on social media or in films might not be a true representation of what it’s like for everyone. But, it is in your power to create a life you love on your terms.
It’s about understanding what that means for you and what that looks like for you.
For some of you that may well be travelling the world, going on adventures, trying new things, doing crazy and wild things on the reg.
However, on the flip side of that, it may also be finding the small things in life that light you up, the simple pleasures, the small adventures and more low-key things - this article is going to explore some of these and what they might look like.
For me, this changes from time to time but I know that I am on a path to create a life that enables me to have different versions of my reality.
Sometimes I want to be travelling the globe, exploring new places, trying new things, meeting new people and all the rest. Other times I want to be cosied up in a cabin in the woods with my journal, books and puppies, retreating into my own space away from the big wide world, visiting local beaches and coffee shops when I do feel ready to get outside. But I believe I can do both and it’s in my power to create a life that enables me to do so.
With all that being said, here are 6 tips for creating a life you love
1. Find things that make you happy and bring more of that into your life
Now, this can be absolutely anything that makes you happy. Maybe it's taking a daily walk to the local pond to feed the ducks. It could be watching your favourite films or tv series, or starting a new craft or hobby that lights you up.
It could also be visiting new places - again this can be local to you and doesn’t have to be in another country. It could be trying new things - visiting a new coffee shop each weekend.
Make a list of the things that make you happy and make a plan of how you can big more of those things into your life.
2. Find small joyful moments around you
Again - similar to the above, I want to remind you that you can find joy around you. It doesn’t always have to be about going on big extraordinary adventures, travelling to faraway places or trying extravagant new things.
A lot of the time when we focus back on the simple things in life we can find a lot of joy in those things. Are there any rituals or routines that you can participate in or create to ensure you are finding joyful moments around you?
3. Practice self-compassion
Be kind to yourself, and don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go to plan or if life isn’t working out the way you thought it would. I love this quote from Dr Kristin Neff (2019):
“Self-compassion is a practice of goodwill, not good feelings… With self-compassion we mindfully accept that the moment is painful, and embrace ourselves with kindness and care in response, remembering that imperfection is part of the shared human experience.”
I like to use the concept of treating yourself like you’d treat a friend, if you wouldn’t say it to a friend then don’t say it to yourself. You are human, it’s ok to make mistakes but instead of beating yourself up about them think about what you can take forward from the experience.
Through practising self-compassion with yourself you’ll develop more self-awareness and understand that it’s OK for things to maybe not go completely to plan.
4. Have an open mind and try new things
How will you know if you love it if you’ve never tried it? As a child, I often used to say I didn’t like certain foods - baked beans for instance, but I’d never tried them. As an adult, I’m a huge fan!
Trying new things may feel a tad out of your comfort zone, but sometimes you gotta try these things. Having an open mind to things is the basis for understanding more about the world and participating in meaningful conversations. When you don’t want to listen to what others have to say or consider other perspectives about things, the world can become a pretty boring place. Being open to hearing new ideas and perspectives on things opens up a whole host of ways of seeing the world and the things you experience.
Next time you get offered an opportunity to try something new - do it. Or maybe, if you feel called, it’s time to seek out some new things to try.
5. Find your passions and immerse yourself in them
You might not know what you’re passionate about but I challenge you to start thinking about it. What do you love spending your time doing, what do you feel very passionately about, and what things or activities that you engage in really speak to your soul? When you think about your ideal future what does it involve - these may help to uncover your passions. And if you do know what you’re passionate about, how can you immerse yourself in doing things related to them?
6. Focus on yourself and your journey
I think this is one of the most important tips - stop comparing your journey to everyone else’s. Everyone has their timeline and they’re all pretty different. Whatever your journey looks like, or whatever you want your journey to look like focus on that.
Stop looking around at what others are doing and instead focus on putting one foot in front of the other. Focus on chipping away at your goals, at moving closer to where you want to be. Focus on creating your dream life, the life you love, the life that gets you out of bed in the morning. Comparison is the thief of joy - don’t let it steal the joy from your journey.
Combining the tips above should help you to start paving the way and forging your path to create a life you love.
Remember, it's your life and figuring out what is going to make you happy is what’s super important. It’s not what others around you say you should be doing, or what society suggests you should do. It’s about understanding what type of life you want to create.
And if you’re ready to start creating a life on your terms get in touch about working with me.
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I’m Carly, I help people who feel lost, stuck or overwhelmed in life to find their true self. Guiding and supporting them to find clarity and direction whilst creating a life they truly love - becoming the author of their life!